Buying Happiness? The Psychology Behind Retail Therapy

You’ve had a terrible day. An exam you studied so hard for didn’t go as per plan. Without thinking much, you open your favourite shopping app ‘just to browse’. Twenty minutes later, there's a package on its way to your house, and you somehow already feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. But is shopping actually making us happier, or is it simply distracting us from what we’re feeling? 

Shopping to lift your spirits, reduce stress, or deal with unpleasant feelings is known as retail therapy. For some, this may involve buying a small treat at the end of the day, while for others it could mean impulsively purchasing items that they don’t necessarily need. The act of browsing, comparing products and awaiting a purchase provides a brief sense of excitement, comfort or control. But why does shopping have such a powerful effect on our mood? To answer that, we need to look into what happens in our brains the moment we begin anticipating a purchase. 

One of the main reasons shopping feels rewarding is because of a neurotransmitter called dopamine. This is often referred to as the brain's ‘feel good’ chemical. It is not only released when we receive a reward but also when we anticipate one. For example, even imagining ourselves owning a new pair of shoes, a scented candle, or even a book we wanted to read, our brain begins to associate the purchase with pleasure. Moreover, shopping can also create a temporary feeling of control. When we are stressed, or feeling uncertain, making choices such as selecting a product or comparing options can restore a sense of certainty. For a short while our attention shifts away from the problems weighing on us and toward something enjoyable and manageable. 

However this temporary feeling often addresses the symptom rather than the source of our emotions, hence making it an unhealthy drug. This can be explained by the psychology phenomenon known as hedonic adaptation. This theory suggests that individuals have a relatively stable baseline level of happiness to which they naturally return following both positive and negative life events. As the purchase becomes familiar and integrated with everyday life, the emotional boost gradually diminishes. This prompts individuals to seek another rewarding experience to recreate the initial amount of excitement. 

The consequences of using retail therapy as a coping mechanism can have significant financial consequences. Emotional spending is impulsive, meaning that purchases are more based on feelings, rather than meeting an actual need. Due to this, individuals spend more than their intended budget. This creates a vicious cycle. The temporary relief that individuals feel after shopping would be replaced by feelings of guilt, regret or anxiety about money. 

Does this mean retail therapy is always bad? No, shopping inherently is not unhealthy, nor does every purchase made at a stressful time indicate emotional avoidance. The main distinction lies in the intention behind the purchase. If it constantly becomes a way to cope with daily struggles, or uncomfortable feelings then one should be more mindful before purchasing. 

However, there are many more healthier ways to cope. For getting in some daily movement, a good run, walk or dance will release happy brain chemicals called endorphins. A lighter workout could be yoga, or simple stretches which would help relax tight muscles and calm your mind. For some reflection time, journaling your feelings or meditating can help one stay in the present moment. For creativity and connection, painting, cooking, building a puzzle, or even just talking to a friend can help relieve any built up negative emotions. 

So does retail therapy really make us feel better? The answer is yes but only for a short while. The key is remembering that while buying a new jacket might make your day, it won’t solve your problems. Feelings do not disappear behind a shopping bag. A quick reflection you can do next time you are ever tempted to click ‘Add to Cart’ after a rough day, ask yourself one simple question: Am I shopping for something I want, or for something I want emotionally? Always remember sometimes the best therapy doesn’t always come in a cardboard box. 

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ScienceDirect. (2018). Hedonic Adaptation - an overview | ScienceDirect Topics. In www.sciencedirect.com. https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/psychology/hedonic-adaptation 

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